When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of your Life

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Boundaries is the book that's helped over 2 million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives.

Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone's requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others' feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it's all of the above.

In the New York Times bestseller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.

Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions:

Can I set limits and still be a loving person? What are legitimate boundaries? How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me? What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage? Aren't boundaries selfish?

You don't have to let your life spiral out of control. Discover how boundaries make life better today!

Plus, check out Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, marriage, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

Publisher: Grand Rapids, Michigan : Zondervan, [2017]
Edition: Updated and expanded
ISBN: 9780310350231
Branch Call Number: 248.4 CLO 2017
Characteristics: 346 pages
Additional Contributors: Townshend, John


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Oct 07, 2018

Too religious for me. I would instead recommend "Boundaries Where You End And I Begin," by Anne Katherine

May 21, 2018

A little too religious for an atheist but I appreciate Dr. Cloud's perspective and writing on the topic.

Best book ever. I was lent this book and it literally changed my life. I was raised by a parent with NPD, and I've always struggled with self worth, with saying no, with fear of offending people, etc. Yes- the authors are Christians- so if you're not into that, then this isn't the book for you. But it was a logical, methodical way to learn to deal with however you're maintaining boundaries and establishing them more fully.
Seriously- as I was so damaged, and still struggle with the guilt sometimes with asserting boundaries with my one parent in particular- I read or listen to this book at least once every other year.
Good luck! Great book!

Jul 24, 2017

All the Jesus talk and role sexism was too much of a turn off for me to get past the first chapter.

May 13, 2015

Boundaries are very important -- and -- yet -- somehow Cloud kept banging into my boundaries and it did not feel good. This is purely from a feeling point of view but I couldn't get over the feeling that he was non-empathetic and had little if any understanding of the emotional dynamics of the VICTIM. This book didn't work for me and I believe I can find another or solutions myself which will feel less like a restrictive one-size-fits-all formula and more fluid.

KeeMan May 10, 2013

Good for Self-esteem

Sep 02, 2012

This book has many useful ideas. I had to skip the last part as it was somewhat repetitive. I found the examples from scripture amusing rather than annoying. I can imagine how some people might get irritated by all the Jesus talk. Overall, it is an easy read and can be very useful.

Aug 06, 2012

Recommended in Patsy Clairmont book

Jul 28, 2012

Read it. Some people have problems understanding boundaries and unknowingly take advantage of others. This books helps you recognize that you must personally draw a line around yourself and not let others step over it and take advantage of you.

Aug 29, 2011

This book helped me set new priorities, and say "no" to things I had assumed I needed to do. I feel a lot more peaceful, even though my life is still busy. :-)

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